Here is the story of a soulmate, Sarah, who went through all the high and low points in the life of Abraham, her spouse. Imagine the anxiety, fear, doubt, and anger Sarah must have had in wandering around in the wilderness with Abraham’s visions and experiences of God. Any person, for that reason, will think twice before embarking on a journey without a defined destination or clarity of where they are going.
Now, of course, we know the ancient people were nomadic in nature and so they are attuned to such a lifestyle. We might say, it must not have been that hard as far as the journey is concerned but when it came to doing things as God commanded him to do; it must not have been easy. Then when it came to sacrificing the only child she must have been just crazy, I would think. If I put that into words it will be something like this. “Let us fold the tent man, you are nuts.” Instead, she trusted him.
If you remember, Sarah offered her maid to Abraham and he had another son, Ishmael. There is all the reason for her not to go along with Abraham’s ideas but in the end, she follows him wherever he goes. She supports him in all the escapades of life and becomes the helper God intended her to be. She was not always quiet but in the end Sarah supported Abraham in all things, even letting go of her only son, Isaac.
Nothing comes free, Abraham knew this fully well. He remembered all the sacrifices Sarah made for him and for the family. That’s why in this chapter we see Abraham is not falling for the insincere and quick answer of the Hittite, Ephron. Abraham politely acknowledged Ephron’s offer, but created a prudent boundary by paying for the land he wanted. He also establishes a deep awareness that the place he is buying is a sacred place, for that is where Sarah, his soul-mate, is going to be buried.
For the sake of his soul-mate he spares nothing. He is willing to pay whatever it takes to respect, love, and honor the spouse who journeyed with him. In scripture you will find that Sarah is the only woman whose age, death, and burial are mentioned in such detail. She is not only the mother of the Jewish people, but also of people whose faith is challenged daily by those who are close to them. Regardless of religious affiliation, Sarah represents what it takes to give a person grace, to have courage, to be understanding, and how to support a spouse.
Solution #23: Practicing faith is not easy but if we are attuned to God it will always be present to us through the people we love most us. Those that are near to us will show us the way forward even when we are not sure. When there is mutual trust between spouses even the hardest of choices become a little easier. A reciprocal love is the only way to respond to such trust. Nothing should be spared when it comes to showing that kind of commitment and love. Abraham proves he is the man for Sarah and he will do whatever it takes to prove it. When it came to showing his love of his spouse, and her loss, he did not shy away from showing his emotions. The great patriarch becomes greater when he cries his heart out.